Sometimes you may just want to give up on the whole eating thing. It’s too complicated. You’ve made too many mistakes. It’s not even worth fighting any more. It’s all too easy to take a narcissistic approach when you feel like you’ve hit a wall, when you feel like you’ll never get where you want to go. But don’t give up. This is not the end, and you will make it through, however long it may take. Here’s three things to remember along the way.
1. Don’t Do Something You’ll Regret
Let’s be honest. You always that something’s going to going to make you feel awful, however delicious it might taste for ten seconds. So don’t do it. If you know that donut is going to push you over the edge and drown you in regret for the rest of the night, don’t submit yourself to that kind of treatment. Give yourself the best, not the worst. You’ll feel better for it. There is no one forcing you to eat that dessert. You have complete and full control. So if you know that ultimately it’s going to hurt you, don’t do it. Be strong and stand up for yourself. You’ll thank yourself later. When you’re tempted to do something you know you shouldn’t, don’t get angry at yourself. Simply remain calm and ask yourself: “Will I regret this?” If the answer is “yes”, be confident that there is something better waiting for you. Divert your attention to something else. Don’t think about it. And don’t do it.
2. Don’t be Ruled by Fear
It’s all too easy to victimize yourself, to feel like the battle’s lost before it’s even begun and then to not even try. It’s easy to be afraid that you’re going to fail, that you’re going to give into temptation and wind up drowning in regret. But when you give in to this fear, when you accept it as a reality before it even happens, you make it a reality. But it doesn’t have to be. You don’t have to live in this self-inflicted misery. So acknowledge your fear, but then instead of accepting it, replace it with hope and love. There is power in love, love to treat yourself with the honour and dignity you deserve, to give yourself the joy of a satisfying eating experience. So eat your food slowly. Breathe and allow yourself to take pleasure in it. Let yourself smile and enjoy the little things, and don’t worry about anything else. See? You can do it. All you have to do is give yourself a chance.
3. Don’t Freak Out if You Don’t Know What to Do
It’s okay not to have things completely figured out. Everyone wants a formula, an detailed and fool-proof method that they can follow word for word and that will guarantee success 100%. But that’s not the way it works. We are each unique, incredible and often inconsistent individuals, and we are different from each other as well as being different from day to day. There is no “one thing” that works for everyone, and there is nothing wrong with that. In the end it’s not about finding the perfect system. It’s about finding out who you are, how to accept yourself for who you are, how to love and respect yourself and give yourself joy through everything you do. So relax. Take a deep breath and understand that food is not a math equation. It’s relative and it’s beautiful. Find the beauty. Find the joy and then live it at every meal, in every moment.
So when you’re feeling desperate, realize that you’re not the only one. We all feel like this time and again. And that’s okay. Don’t hate yourself for it. Try to understand the feelings beneath, where you’re hurting and how you can help yourself, how you can lift yourself up and empower yourself. Because you can. You just have to try.